Are you frustrated by the fact that you always see yourself with the wrong people in your endeavours?
From your workplace, church, friends, romantic partners, and others, there has been a trend of people with similar traits appearing and don’t seem to understand where it may have emanated from.
Drawing the right people into your life is not only about transforming yourself entirely but it is also much about allowing people to leave you or better still letting go of traits that may be holding you back and hindering your possibilities of bonding with the right persons.
You may not even recognize it but there could be some things you are up to or habits that you do that are not deliberate, however, it is repelling others especially the ones you need in your life away from you.
If you find yourself in this position, don’t fret.
In this article, I talked about some traits you need to avoid doing that will see your hopes of getting closer to high-value people become a reality.
This article seeks to help you identify the deficiencies and empower you to make worthy connections in your life.
To begin with, know that one of the reasons people find themselves connected to the wrong people is because of misaligned interests and expectations.
Sometimes, expectations from society and peer pressure also induce people to form certain associations.
A woman for example may want to marry or date am based on external factors such as his social status, the car he drives, physical structure, job etc. but she may not deeply be in love with him.
Being A People Pleaser
We all are one way or the other culprits of this act or demeanour. When we meet people we like, we often want to appear nice to them and do as they say just to make them happy and choose to associate themselves with us.
The drive to conformity in all forms even if what we are doing goes against our beliefs is a major setback in maximizing your potential and succeeding.
This trait has been etched in our minds from time immemorial but you should take note that being a people pleaser will not attract the right people into your life but will repel them and even more, they will take advantage of you.
This is because they are away you will go to the heavens and break your back for them at their request. People pleasers put the needs and wants of others first than their own desires and it is different from generosity or selflessness.
You Are Overly Available
You may be wondering what I mean by being too available but here is what, you can be available but you should also be scarce as people tend to value what they can’t have all the time.
Too much availability kills attraction and take note also that being available is different from being accessible. Availing yourself at the time of need is noble, however, your needs should also be a priority in your own life.
People take for granted things or people who are easily accessible and ready to connect to.
This means you can intentionally live a busy life while focusing on your job, education, hobbies, career, family or anything that pertains to you thus making you scarce in the minds and eyes of people.
When you are not always reachable, people will look for you and this means that people who think they can add value to you will pursue to.
Ignoring Self-care
While pursuing love and acceptance, most people tend to lose their minds on the very important individuals in their lives.
Not taking care of yourself can invite the wrong personalities into your life. When we neglect our wellness which is physical, mental, psychological, emotional and spiritual well-being, people are able to deduce that we don’t even put value on our very self. If you treat yourself with great care, others notice and treat you likewise and by so doing you will realize they will always want to bring value to you.
It is just like the popular saying that ‘if you want people to respect you, you must first respect yourself’.
Overlook Red Flags
Sometimes as humans out of excitement, we tend to overlook red flags in people during our interaction with them.
If you want to have a deeper insight into the character of a person you might as well pay rapt attention to how he or she treats others or deals with other people.
Our failure to observe the traits of others is our major setback when it comes to dealing with people and acknowledging that this is what or who this person is goes a long way to knowing how to navigate your ways around him.
Do not just settle for less because you deserve the best.
Overlooking Your Values
A person of value is always clinging to his beliefs and values but what do we see ourselves doing, compromise?
A lot of times, we have our own values and what we believe in but because we want to please people or want them to feel good sometimes for the avoidance of tension and misunderstanding, we sacrifice what we believe in and the values we hold in high esteem.
No matter what, don’t change who you are or don’t neglect your make-up just to make others feel good as it will turn around to hurt you.
Fear of Loneliness
If you are afraid of being alone, trust me you will rather be able or end up with a bunch of needless beings who will not take you anywhere in life but into the ditch.
Some people think they always need to have someone in their lives especially people they can cuddle up with.
More often than not, they will show desperation for any kind of person thereby ignoring red flags.
Truly if you stop these traits you will stop attracting the wrong people into your life and build a more healthy and productive connection with people will add to your life.
